Ramblations II

When I'm not talking to myself, I'm talking to my friends and our conversations range from anything under the dirt to over the sun. I love how deep we can get into these conversations; we value each others input while respecting our differences in views and opinions.

This one topic; Everybody got somebody. Got my thinking..

Is anybody really single? And if you are, are you stupid for being single in a society where "everybody got somebody"?

First let me elaborate on "everybody got somebody" .. Everybody approaches you like they're single, but they either have a lingering ex, a couple joints, maybe someone they want to take serious, but it hasn't gotten that far yet so they're keeping their options open type of shit. Both males and females are guilty of this. I've witnessed this myself plenty of occasions. You got guys selling single life dreams and proof of otherwise secretly popping up.. You got females who haven't gotten over their ex but trying to test the waters to see if the tide is better or wetter on the other side.

Compatibility > Convenience .. In my eyes, but to many it's quite the opposite. Compatibility means nothing where convenience is involved. If its convenient, majority gonna fuck with it.. And alot of tangled webs of deceptions are often webbed with the lazy strings of convenience. If compatibility was really a factor. Many wouldn't be fake single. They'll be really single or in a real relationship.. One that's more visible than not.

Honestly, I think there's this fear of rejection or "sca(red) of being lonely" syndrome that many endure which is why this whole "everybody got somebody" topic is so relevant. It's like keeping one door ajar while you knocking on the next door. Close the door behind you. And if you don't feel you want to, why try to enter new grounds? Selfish or just plain greedy. But I feel it's very cruel to play with emotions of others. To portray a set of emotions as if this person is the only one you're feeling this for, yet .. You still fucking with ya ex.. Or have a few "joints" lingering around.

To some, this is normal.. Regular shit. Helll yeah I'm keeping my options open, can't trust these niggas, can't trust these hoes. But how far can this go? How can you really expect anything serious coming from half.. Or even a quarter of your effort. Alot of connections get disconnected because there's a lack of honesty and straight forwardness with people. Be upfront with what you want, let me know what it is.. And what it isn't.
Stop playing games.
Unless you trying to play..
In that case play on..
Just let it be known you playing.

I'm single. I'm not lingering with no ex, no joints I can call when I'm bo(red).. I mean I can but I close doors for a reason. Not a big fan of back stepping. Maybe the reason that I don't mind being alone is why I can exclude myself from the whole "Everybody got somebody" circle.. But although I can exclude myself, many don't. Guys never believe me, I'm too pretty to not have someone they say.. Smh sad. And then my secretive personality doesn't help that. So they tend to hold back because they think I'm not as involved as they would like me to be. But, you're not even really single. So why you trying to check me?

With that in mind, a guy tells me he single, I assume he's lying. He has somebody. I let it rock. Most men can't really be alone. I don't use that against him, and I don't worry about what he does or who he's with.. When I'm not with him. I'll act accordingly.

But it's just ugly when you would like to be serious with someone and you're ready to be all in, and the other is scrambling to cut ties.. And in the mist of cutting ties (some may be easier to cut than others) the tougher ties to cut will cause problems with what you're trying to build over here. that's not fair. Of course overcoming problems is key in discovering how compatible you and someone are, but so early on can really rock the boat.. Depending on a series of variables. It's just messy.. I don't like messy situations.

I can go on all day with this.. But is anybody really single? Like single all around? And even if you don't feel single all the way around.. Whoever you feel you're feeling like you're in a relationship with, whether its sexual, mental, spiritual etc.. Is the feeling mutual, or top secret? Should you express it or repress it in hopes it goes away? In fear of rejection? If everybody got somebody and you have nobody, like me.. How the fuck you supposed to find someone? Lol I suppose life knows when and who .. We just gotta wait it out huh?

Eh.. Just a thought.

Friends.

How many of us have them?

I don't have many, but I cherish and appreciate mine so much. I have real friends. Individuals rooting for my success and genuinely caring for me. I've weeded out my fake friends, I had a few frenemies lingering around but they're long gone. I don't fuck with people who don't like me but wanna be in my face. I never understood that. Just scram if you dislike me. Just wanna know your business and find ways to fuck you over, those aren't your friends cut the ties while you have the chance.

People don't know how to be friends. They think simply calling someone a friend, taking silly pics and going out solidifies a friendship. A friendship to me is just like any other relationship; you need a connection, communication and a genuine care for one another.

A friend is someone you can count on, someone who's there when you need them in any way they can.. Someone who not only listens but by the end of the conversation, they've come up with a solution or some form of advice to help you. Someone who doesn't question your motives, but trusts you enough to know you wouldn't steer them wrong. A friend is great, they help you grow and you usually grow as friends as well. Motivating each other to reach goals and deadlines.

Every friendship is different but the above mentioned are key. I would include loyalty but that's more instinct than a trait you can obtain. And not everybody loyal. But I wouldn't advise continuing any relationship where the other party has no loyalty. They will fuck you over with no second thought. People who don't posses loyalty are extremely selfish to begin with.


My circle is pretty small. I have plenty of associates but very few I call Friends. But what I love most about my friends, they're more than that.. They're my extended family. I really thank god for them like I thank him for my family. My friends are the best. All different but with hearts of gold. They genuinely care about me, they know me very well. They motivate me, push me, drag me out the house when I don't wanna go out but by the end of the night I'm glad I did. Always there when I need an ear .. And on the same note. They accept me for me, don't try to change me. Even more, they encourage me to step out my shell and be the best me I can.

I am a very good friend, any of my friends can vouch for that. I love that. I love that they feel I'm just as great of a friend to them as they are to me. It makes me feel very loved and appreciated. That's a great feeling.

Friends are key in life. It's not about quantity, but the quality in your friends. And even if you have one great friend with all the right qualities, you're good. It's good to have someone you have a bond with and can enjoy each others company.

With intimate relationships, friendship is also very key. You should have a solid friendship with your significant other before you even pursue anything serious. It just works better. In my opinion.

Fuck history when it comes to friends.. Idc how long you've known someone. If they're not a real friend. Get rid of them. People have this misconception that friendship and years go hand in hand. Wrong. Friendship doesn't have a time frame. You can have a friend for 10+ years and another one for 5+ years and the one you knew for 5 could be the better friend while the one you known longer talks shit about you to others when you're not around..

Be very cautious of the company you keep. Make sure everyone around you is really there for you. If they're not, they'll be plotting your demise soon enough.

Social (media) network.

They have taken over the world. I've been contemplating on touching this subject for some time now. It's starting to get on my nerves. And for a cyber lover such as myself.. Enough is enough.

See I used to sneak and unplug the phone to use dial up in the middle of the night. Google and chat rooms were all I knew. You had aol chat rooms for starters, then came Migente, blackplanet, sconex, MySpace, tumblr, Facebook, twitter and Instagram. Presumably in that order, I might be missing a few but that's not important.

Social networks were intended to build relationships with people you might have never met without the Internet, and to keep in touch with people who are no longer close in distance.

What social networks has become today? A social cyber circus. Once upon a time people were just happy to be on the internet. Today, You have people who come on the Internet portraying someone they're not (catfish), you have people desperately yearning for the approval of strangers (the insecure) you have those who because of the Internet following they have, they feel superior in the cyber world (Gassed). Those that use the social networks to expose and ridicule, and those who brag and boast. And my favorite, those who use the Internet to better themselves and their lives whether its through knowledge, great networking or business. See they've grabbed the true concept behind social networks.

Twitter.

I love twitter. I'm a thinker. I love the basis behind twitter, spill your thoughts in under 140 characters. See, my personal timeline is filled with thinkers like myself, comedians, interesting, inspiring individuals with a voice of their own. Twitter has gone global. You turn on the news and the anchor people have their twitter handle underneath their name. Follow fox 5 on twitter, everybody has a twitter, every company has a twitter. Every celeb has a twitter. Twitter singlehandedly ruined the bubble celebs have been kept in. What I love about twitter is that people are exposed for who they truly are, even if they are faking a persona (that says alot on its own). Which is why certain celebs lose their luster through twitter. You have a certain celeb on a pedestal and read their timeline to find out they're illiterate or a complete dick head. Same goes for non celebs. Some people are pure sweet hearts in person, but on twitter this arrogant asshole. Not to mention those who reach for RT and bombard your mentions or feel entitled to a follow back just because they felt following you was worth it and they'll be damned if you don't feel the same.

Instagram
I hate Instagram now, I loved the idea of it. I love photography, so to edit my photos through selective filters was pretty cool to me. Cool. Now? Instagram is a lie. You have people who are trying to portray something they're not, people feeling like they have to prove themselves. You have people posting pictures they been took and passing it off as its in the moment. To either front or piss someone off. Then, you got those who "promote" others so you can follow them on Instagram (I never do) and the tweegram lovers .. Who in my opinion, should just get a twitter and call it a day. Then the attention seekers who thrive on Instagram with their seductive photos and misleading captions. I'm contemplating deleting Instagram, I already got rid of Facebook (everything went down hill after they removed the college email address requirement to sign up). I'm just trying to find the perfect replacement photo app.

*Blogs.
How could I forget, lol I love blogs. Food, personal, style, music, movies.. everything.

Blogs are freedom of speech at its finest on the Internet. You can post whatever the fuck you want and by the time people see it, you've already said it. they can't attack you, at most leave a comment but you can delete that. I respect the bloggers that haven't gotten "gassed" by their following which is well deserved because they are authentic. But nonetheless they disregard the hype and stay true to the core of their blog. The layout may change, but those posts only get deeper. But blogs aren't what they're used to be. Who needs to read blogs when we've accustomed ourselves to wording our feelings and thoughts into 140 characters and quick snapshots uploaded to Instagram. Everything rushed. Take your time.. Let it sink in. I know someone will read mine and think this bitch need a diary, but ha. Got one already. Lmao I just feel nobody takes their time anymore. Rush the message because they understand so well, so should everybody else.... Everybody aint like you. You should always remember that. Someone will appreciate that you took the time. And most will be sad that you rushed it in the first place. Message. Bring blogs back. (Pumps fist lmao)


Relationships and social networks.
I hate when I hear, social networks run relationships. No, weak relationships crumble under social networks. And let me tell you why, social networks is like high school. And all eyes are on you, everybody watching even if they're not talking. So anything you say or do can and will be used against you in the social network world. In my opinion, I feel people portray their relationships to be a certain way to others, so when it's socially exposed that its not quite like that (actions speak louder than words) someone is gonna get upset. Now don't get me wrong, there's a certain way you should carry yourself when you're in a relationship and social networks are no exception. But there's too many relationships being based on exposure.

Some are solely in relationships to be shown off like some trophy as far as I'm concerned. So much emphasis on publicly "exposing" your significant other. For what? Does it further validate your relationship? Throw me on your Instagram so I know it's real? I'm not saying hide your relationship nor should you tolerate feeling hidden. But remember who you're dealing with, some are not as open. Some don't feel it's necessary. If your significant other does their part in making you happy, and you're spending time and creating personal memories.. Why would you rock the boat because they haven't posted a picture or don't follow you on twitter. If you feel they're sneaky, why are you with a snake? You waiting to get bit?

You sitting there driving yourself crazy trying read in between the lines of your lovers tweets, mentions, Instagram posts and comments; for what? You ain't going nowhere. Save yourself the headache and just mind your business. It's minuscule. What you need to be concerned with is if you're happy, are you being treated the way you deserve, are you a good partner, are you appreciative of what you have? and if you don't know or are unsure but can tell me who your s|o @'d 45 minutes ago and how many pictures they liked in an hour, you should get it together. Quick.

Me personally, I don't give a shit about exposure in a relationship on social networks. That's not gonna be a deal breaker in dealing with someone. If anything, I rather not be "shown off" I like who I'm dealing with to be as private as possible. People are spiteful and hateful. Now if who I'm dealing with wants to broadcast me, I don't mind.. But I don't care for it. I care more for how I'm being treated. I know of couples who are everything and more on social networks but are barely functioning as a couple in real life. I also know couples who you would never know are together but are so deeply in love. Because that's all that matters. Fuck a social network facade. I want the real deal. And some shit is so real you don't need to socially broadcast it to validate it. The relationship validates itself. So please stop searching through your lover's social networks and search in your relationship and find closure as to why you feel you have to go searching in the first place. I'm just saying. I'm sick of this shit. It's getting out of hand and it always look messy to the public. Half pretend to be concerned, The others watch in silence as the circus carries on. Both don't care.. just in it for the entertainment. Don't make a fool of yourself. Social networks won't let you forget it.


Stop taking these things so seriously. There's really way more to life than that.

Bird bitches.

Warning; if any of the following offends you .. You are a bird bitch. Don't deny it any longer, just accept it and grow from this. If it don't apply, let it fly and enjoy the ride.

Bird bitches are different breed branch from the female tree.

Please learn to identify the bird bitch from the "bird".. Yes there's a difference.

Every female has a little "bird" in her (busting out the chicken head when hood hop come on) the same way every female has a little "hoe" in her (twerking when dodo(do the?) brown play in the club).. But the bird bitch. Oh they are in a league of their own.

How do you spot a bird bitch, you might be asking (Tyrone biggums voice) ..

It's in the attitude.

Check for the females who's ego is bigger than her actual presence.

Depending on where she's from, her style may vary.. but no matter what they wear the bird bitch will always think she's the best thing since febreeze. That's always not the case.

Because you see, the bird bitch comes in many shades and sizes .. Some may not be physically attractive and some might be, but because they are bird bitches.. They're one in the same.

Ugly bird bitches don't get it as hard as the attractive ones (ugly bird bitches blame their looks for their lack of approaches, when in reality it's because not only are you a bird bitch, you're not even attractive which just makes it worse) .. The attractive ones get approached more, but once the bird bitch reveals herself .. They get left just as quickly as they were approached. So they go around thinking men ain't shit when in reality they're not shit ..(you are what you attract) and they'll use their "beauty" as a crutch to gain attention and try to add reassurance to fill that void that she can't explain.

I mean she can, but she doesn't even wanna admit she's a bird bitch.

Are you a bird bitch? .. Lets dig a little.

All bird bitches use the same logic.
Bird Bitch Logic.

Bird bitch logic; the logic in which a bitch w| bird tendencies expects more than she's willing to give due to her sense of self-entitlement.

Bird bitch logic sets standards on men that they wish to reach but don't think they can without a man.

Bird bitch logic says that the image is more important than the reality of it.

Bird bitch logic makes everyone else's life around her more difficult because she refuses to accept responsibility for her own action.. And she justifies this by blaming everyone else who won't feed into her traps.


Bird bitches are always looking for a come up.. through someone else. Their logic tells them they are entitled to this because to even breathe the same air as them? You gotta pay up, or make yourself useful to them.

You see the bird bitch isn't wrong for having a mind frame of that sort. You should always feel your worthy .. But you should always know your worth. And if you look and discover you aren't worth much, you up your stock. (Yeezy taught me)

The problem with bird bitches is they expect everything but give nothing.

Not by choice either.

Bird bitches spend their lives feeding off other people, never building or working towards their own.. So nothing they ever have lasts long.

Anything they received were through other people .. So as they get left (bird bitches run through so many people throughout a lifetime) the bird bitches has to keep a revolving door, they rely on others .. They can not be without others.

Bird bitches don't fish, they eat.

They don't wanna learn, for what? They got fisherman lined up .. They gonna eat regardless bc closed legs don't get fed. And bird bitches busting open by any means necessary.

And when they have kids????

Lorddddd I pray for any man who plays an active role in their child's life and the mother is a bird bitch.

The kid is an asset and a liability. She ain't have to fish, she just pushed out a kid. Bird bitches seem to be really fertile. Kids are like live bait on a fishing rod for bird bitches, they just swing the rod out and reel in the findings. I've witnessed bird bitches raise kids and its always so sad. Kids being used as pawn and bird bitches can't play checkers, let alone chess .. It always ends up messy, no child should endure that. But unless we have a DP (department of parenting) and you have to get a license to be suited fit for parenting, we really have no say in how one raises their child. Bird bitch or not.

Bird bitch prey on men who have everything going for themselves but lack something, maybe excitement .. A bird bitch always down for some fun especially if its gonna lead to some funds. The bird bitches put on performances to seduce their prey and they do this very well, I mean they don't really know anything else.

Bird bitches aren't educated. Idc how much schooling they've have, I'm not speaking book smart anyway .. If they knew better, they'd do better.

The main characteristic in a bird bitch is denial.

They're aren't aware. And I don't mean just publicly.. I mean even when they're alone, self reflecting (which is rare for the bird bitch, majority aren't enlightened), they never question things and actions they do because nothing is ever their fault.

They're always in the middle of something, always got a new boyfriend/step daddy for their kids. Making public scenes, confrontational, easily offended, mildly retarded, know more about Hollywood current events than what's going with their kids at school, barely with their kids.. Bird bitches the type to argue with their mother or usual sitter because they wanna go out and nobody wants to watch their kid. Bitch, you don't even wanna watch your own kid, why should anyone else?

Or the bird bitches who say fuck this, take their kids with them to their 'clearly not suitable for children' environment; baby ray ray in her left hand, snotty nose, dirty tshirt (or extremely fresh.. Bird bitches don't know in betweens) her styrofoam cup (what's in my cup stays in my cup) filled with nut crackers from the nigga down the block in her right hand. I always wonder how those kids will grow up and my heart aches when I see some of them grow up. You see the resentment in their eyes for their bird bitch of a mother.

Don't be a bird bitch. No man wants that, no child wants that. Only you can change you, bird bitches never die. They get old and bitter.

Kill the bird bitch inside you.

Only chance for survival. Bird bitches weren't made to survive, they're made to be used til they can't be used anymore.. Then tossed back into the wild, a little piece of them gone with each toss .. And a little more lost. Smh

Feel free to use the bird bitch, a bird bitch will certainly use you.

Some bird bitches are a little more clever than the others, so beware.. Just identify that she is one from the beginning and handle her accordingly.

Hope you bird bitches find your souls ..
Hope those of you who deal with them on a regular don't get caught in their web of deception.

Bird bitches only care about themselves. Remember that.